Max is a real jerk. A long time ago, the successful lawyer had turned over all the routine duties of family life to his wife Nathalie.His comfort and leisure time were a far greater priority. Sell the roadster and buy an efficient family car? No way!But then, Max’s fast-paced life suddenly screeches to a halt when Nathalie is hospitalized for several weeks with a complicated fracture.Alone with their two children and the dog he hates, Max quickly reaches the boiling point.As if having to play father was not bad enough, he is shocked to the core when he discovers passionate love letters written to his wife and signed “From G. in love”. Feeling that his life is slipping out of control, Max’s first impulse is to find out who his rival is. Then it dawns on him – could the way he has treated his wife be the reason why she has sought out another lover?Now Max attempts to see his situation from a different point of view. Last week he was ready to plan the yearly guys’ vacation he takes with his best buddy, but now things have changed.Max recognizes just how much he needs Nathalie’s humor, her organizing talent and her optimism, but also just how important to him she and his family really are. Max tries to discover the mysterious lover’s identity, but because of his new insight, he takes an additional step.Unfortunately, when he learns that the mystery man is Gregor, Max realizes that not only does the man have all those qualities - he is very attractive as well. His struggle to become a better husband and father suddenly becomes far more difficult.Hoping to knock Gregor out of the picture and get back in Nathalie’s good graces, Max makes an appointment with a successful life coach. But turning his life around is far more difficult than he had imagined.To make matters worse, Gregor turns out to be a loving, family-oriented man just what Nathalie needs. Max is desperate – he knows there is a real chance that he might lose Nathalie and the children.Willing to put everything on the line to keep his family intact, Max makes the biggest sacrifice of his life. Then something happens that is the very last thing he could have ever counted on…
唉，哪一个家庭在这个节点没有这些乱七八糟的事呢，又或者说每个家庭的每天是否都在经历这些问题呢
几个家庭生活的日常和争吵拍摄得很真实，感同身受，对于身份认同的危机很清晰，成人的挣扎似乎如迷雾般看不透
有些话你听过别人说是没有用的，你要听到他/她说，你要自己说
而我没有能力说出“下辈子希望妈妈是女儿，而我来当母亲”这样曾经被我嗤之以鼻的话。
「這個世界上我最不想成為的人就是我的母親，因為她的恐懼會成為我的恐懼，而她的軟弱會使我軟弱。」有時候我們會一直想著自己最不想成為的那個人，但當你越想遠離，你就離它越近。當你試著去問自己他不討你喜歡的原因是什麼，會發現這種抗拒是不是源自於你下意識認同自己與他不可避免的、連體的鏡像關係。
青春成长家庭片应该做减法，本片就是议题太多会挤坏，每一个又都是浅尝辄止。身份认同、女孩成长、母女连结、乳腺癌，乃至于03年非典的背景试图做疫情下台湾社会的侧写，哪一个不是可以大做文章的主题？导演的年轻，为片中女孩的青春期状态带来较为准确的把握，同时也是短板，比如对乳腺癌病情和愈后的展示、癌症对家庭的打击太轻飘飘，术后做那么多家务分分钟淋巴水肿到抬不起手来好吗。
瑕疵是家庭关系紧张、缓和、爆发的转换点有几处有点突然，一下子切中脉门虽然达到目的，但不如推拿疏通来的水到渠成，这就是所谓的需要功夫吧。比较一下李安的《饮食男女》杨德昌的《一一》可能会更好理解这个意思。
TA的恐惧变成了我的恐惧，TA的软弱成了我的软弱。
硬要雞蛋裡挑骨頭的話，覺得吵架戲碼都較為單一，銜接到結尾豁然開朗讓人有點買不了單，但絕對是4.5佳作。
她的恐惧会成为我的恐惧 她的软弱会使我软弱
给五分主要是个人经历类似。成绩差，在学校被体罚，到陌生的国度无法融入，如定时炸弹般的家人，难以面对的现实。
成长具有一系列共性的情绪符号：反叛和驯服，救赎和引导
《瀑布》的转基因通俗家常版，都是母女关系+疫情背景+妈妈生病推动剧情，加了点世纪初年代感和文化冲突元素，因直白家常又少了点回味空间，表演都不错。
少年困境+中年困境+女性困境，这个社会到底是牢笼还是向往？环境、地位，社群到底给人带来了什么？如果是我，我会像splash一样不愿屈服，还是乖乖套上缰绳？不知道，因为任何一种选择，所付出的代价都是不可挽回的。
为什么豆瓣有八分？？在2022年第一天花时间和钱看人吵架？？我不李姐啊
3.5接近四星 没有解决根本问题 有一些共通的场景情境有点触动吧 ，ps 中国妈妈的囊肿结节都是被孩子气出来的
父母没有觉察到这一点，更没有把孩子当成和自己一样的人，想要用权威控制TA们，使用所有沟通方法中，最没有效，最伤人的方法，用情绪对抗情绪。
3.22 三星半。
而不是感受认同对方的情绪。我知道你很想回美国，在这里很不适应。用叛逆表达自己的痛苦。
在电影里居然看到了自己，勾起了好多小时候的回忆，升学考试，父母吵架，朋友离开，同学嘲笑，把生活的希望寄托在虚无，每一次的失落与难过都会随着时间退却又回来，说不清道不明的生活，或许就像是这部电影，并没有一个正确的答案，跟电影里爸爸说的一样，逃避或许有用……
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